The ever-elusive question remains, "Why is self-care so hard for women?"
Why is it that we can give and give to others so freely and openly, but taking time for ourselves can be one of the hardest things we will ever do?
The answer to this question is many and as varied as the human race. But, there are several beliefs I feel most women resonate with most when it comes to putting others before herself.
The first comes in the form of guilt. Women may try to take time for...
“I know I need to take care of myself, but I feel so much guilt for doing so.”
“As a working mom, I'm already away from my family too much! I can't take even more time away from them."
”I know I need to attend bible study, but my kids make me feel so guilty for leaving."
Can you relate to any of these statements?
Most women can.
For many, the cost of feeling guilty simply is too great to embrace self-care. Any benefit that could be experienced from a...
While Hallmark declares February as the love month, I'm declaring February as the self-love month; the month to embrace the care and love you deserve to give yourself.
As women, we are naturally inclined to love on others and serve them in whatever capacity is needed. Whether it be doing laundry, cleaning up puke from a sick kid (or husband), driving a forgotten lunch bag to school, or bringing over a hot meal (or bottle of wine) to a friend, we lovingly and willingly give...
“Observe the sabbath day to keep it holy, as the Lord your God commanded you.” Deuteronomy 5:12-14
”For six days work may be done, but on the seventh day there is a sabbath of complete rest, a holy convocation. You shall not do any work; it is a sabbath to the Lord in all your dwellings.” (Leviticus 23:3)
“Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor, and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God....
As mama's, our to-do lists are long and never ending.
Whether it be grocery shopping, signing back-to-school forms, scheduling doctor and eye appointments, cleaning, doing laundry, taking the dog to the groomer, going to and from work and meetings, and driving our kids to activities, our days are full with tasks that demand our attention.
Friend, where are you on your to-do list?
Do me a favor right now. Stop reading this post and go right to your list. As you scan it over, make a mental note...
Given it is the month of love, I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to spend the next 28 days focusing on the kind of love women don't do well - that being, self-love.
You know what self-love is right? It is the kind of love where you give as much love to yourself as you for others.
I know, I know. This statement alone is enough to bring on eye-rolls, nervous laughs, and a complete disregard for a concept so many women view as impossible to achieve.
There are even...
When was the last time you cared for yourself? Yesterday? A week ago? A month ago? A year ago? Never?
While I pray with my whole heart that you answered "yesterday," my gut and experience tells me you answered "a month ago, a year ago, or maybe even never."
Why is it that we spend more time caring for others and other things than we do our own heart and soul? Heck, even the laundry gets more attention than our heart.
When Quilt Overpowers Self-Care
I have spoken with many women...
Happy February! As we enter into this month, we are diving deep into a topic that is near and dear to my heart - self-care. What a perfect month to celebrate self-love!
The more I talk with and observe women, I more I see how amazing we are at giving, giving, giving. Whether we give to our kids, our husbands, our parents, friends, co-workers, boss, teachers, or as a volunteer… we extend our hearts, our hands, and our love to everyone who is in need of help. What an amazing gift God...
Today I was driving and a song came on the radio that was titled Dear Younger Me by the Christian band, MercyMe. The premise of the song is about giving advice to a younger version of yourself so that the life circumstances and lessons you have learned along the way could give the younger version of you a step ahead in this world.
As I listened to the song, I couldn’t help but reflect upon my own lessons I have learned along this crazy journey called life.
As a wife and mom to...
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