I’m a fixer. Give me a problem and I’m going to put my head down and start digging into possible solutions.
In some parts of life, this works well for me. I can fix skinned knees when my children fall. I can wipe away tears when others are hurting, and I can pull up a YouTube video to attempt to fix a gadget that goes array in my home.
While there is plenty I can fix on my own, I’m starting to realize that more often than not, my ability to fix things is completely beyond me.
Take, for example, a cancer diagnosis. I can’t fix it even though every part of me wants to.
I also can’t fix a broken nor unbelieving heart. And I can’t fix an unanswered prayer or dream.
Oh, how I wish I could take my fixer-attitude and do something about these situations.
But, the older I get, the more I realize most situations in life are less about my ability to fix them and more about my ability to pass them over to God.
You see, it is God (and God) alone who heals the broken, performs miracles, and brings fulfillment to dreams and unanswered prayers.
But, His timing is not our timing. And all too often we have to wait on God.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like waiting. It is during this time that I find myself doubting, fearing, and fretting.
Questions that take reign in my mind and take hold of my heart often begin with “Why God?” “When God?” and “How come God?”
The questions so easily come, don’t they? They fill our minds and make us believe that God has left us. He has walked away and forgotten us.
And yet, Scripture tells us He has not left us (see Deuteronomy 31:8). He is always with us and working for us even when we can’t see Him doing so.
So what do we do in times when we can’t insert ourselves to fix a situation?
The answer goes against anything we’ve ever been told or taught. The Scripture tells us:
“Don’t be afraid. Just stand still and watch the Lord rescue you today.... The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.” (Exodus 14: 13-14).
The hardest part of being a fixer is being still.
Does that mean God wants us doing nothing in times of trial?
I believe the answer is no. You see, being still and letting God fight still requires something from us.
It requires us to pray. I find pray journaling to be the best way to release all the good, bad, and ugly emotions that are filling my mind and taking hold of my heart.
It also requires us to have a surrendering heart. After I tell God all that is weighing on me, I turn it over to Him. He knows how I am hurting, but He also knows my position; one where I am not in control and He is!
Finally, it requires us to have searching eyes. I always end my pray journaling by asking God to show up in my life. I ask Him to give me a deposit of Himself so that I can see Him working. It is there, in these moments, when God shows up that I find renewed hope and encouragement.
Friends, I don’t know what situations are weighing on you today. What I do know is that there are probably several areas of your life where you wish you could just fix them, but realize you can’t.
If you find yourself in this place, I encourage you to hold close to Exodus 14: 13-14. When you pray, surrender, and look for ways God is moving in your life, you will find the encouragement you need to keep going.
There is no need to be a fixer. Learn to be still and let God fight for you.
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