The One Form of Self Care You’re Probably Not Doing, But Should Be

Unworthy. Unqualified. Not enough. 

These were the lies I had been allowing into my thoughts.  

The more I authorized these thoughts into my day-to-day life, the worse I felt. A perfectly peaceful day was ruined by the assault happening in my head.

Can you relate? What lies are you allowing yourself to believe?

Maybe your assault revolves around your physical appearance. Or perhaps it circles your career or your past mistakes.

For me, the lies revolved around God’s calling in my life. I frequently had thoughts that started with “I’m not good enough...” or “I’m not qualified to....“

For weeks, I allowed myself to believe these lies. Talk about being a hot mess. My soul was anything but well.

It wasn’t until I read Discerning the Voice of God, by Priscilla Shirer that I realized the voice I was hearing (and believing) was not from God. It was from the enemy. It was his way of breaking me down and preying on my weakness. 

You see the enemy wants to stop me (and you) from following God. He wants us to believe that we are not worthy, qualified, beautiful or successful enough to do God’s work. And he wants us to think that we are not deserving of God’s love and grace. 

And so the enemy enters into our thoughts and tells us lies; lies that we don’t just believe, but act upon. So, rather than walking in God’s grace and mercy, we stop in our tracks and think we're not good enough or deserving enough to walk in abundance.

Friend, it’s time to fight for our thoughts. Because, if we don’t, it is our souls, our very lifeline to our wellbeing, that will take the biggest hit. And taking care of our soul is the number one form of self-care we should both be working to achieve.  

How to Stop Believing the Enemy’s Lies

“Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)

Taking control of your thoughts is a lot harder than it sounds. But, with God’s guidance, He can help you see the enemies lies, while also helping you focus on His truths. Below are three steps that will help you take control of your lies, while also helping you lean into God.  

Step 1

To stop believing the lies you have been telling yourself, you need first to identify what those lies are. Without this first step, you will never know when the enemy is on the prowl. 

Step 2

Then, you are to come up with a phrase that stops the lies in its path and points you to God and His unconditional love. 

“Stop, enemy! You are not welcome. I’m trusting God.”

“Not today, enemy! God called me and will qualify me. I put my trust in Him.”

Redirecting your thoughts is moment-by-moment. Be prepared for a barrage of constant redirection, especially when you first start your fight.  

Step 3

Finally, once you’ve said your statement, you need to keep walking.

For me, this walk is about continuing to take baby steps in God’s calling in my life. For you, your walk might be remaining on your exercise or healthy eating regimen. Or it might be trusting God’s perfect timing for your next career promotion or job. Whatever your walk looks like, do it as a fight to the enemy who wants you to do anything but take a step.  

Friends, self-care is not always about self. It is about renewing and refreshing your soul. Let’s not let our thoughts wreak havoc on the wellbeing of our lifeline. Take action and fight the good fight. It’s worth the battle, my friend.

Do you need time to process? Try these journaling prompts: What lies are you believing? What phrase will you use to stop the enemy’s attack? How will you keep walking? 

Praying you through,



Photo by Drew Hays & Jacob Li on Unsplash


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